Finding Comfort - Any Signs After They Passed?...

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RE: Finding Comfort - Any Signs After They Passed?...

by Marie55 on Thu Jul 24, 2014 01:51 AM

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After four months, I still sleep on my side of the bed and have not ventured to the middle or my husband's side of the bed. I do sit in his chair now and it is always a comfort ... Emotions go up and down and I still cry every day - My mind accepts he is gone, but my heart misses him so much. I feel like I get little signs all the time and it beings me to tears. Tomorrow going to a doctor's appointment and will be doing alone this year. My best friend in the world is gone.

RE: Finding Comfort - Any Signs After They Passed?...

by wildrose on Thu Jul 24, 2014 03:44 AM

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I know how that is when they had me in front of the heart cath doors and stopped to show everyone where to go and wait and they said good-by to me I wanted to start crying because this was the first time I wasn't going to have Mike with me when I come out to take me home. But I told myself you can't cry because things want come out good and Mike will be with you just as always

wildrose

RE: Finding Comfort - Any Signs After They Passed?...

by waiting on Thu Jul 24, 2014 12:11 PM

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I figuratively have my hands on your shoulders and whispering in your ear - your strong - your a trooper - keep going - and chin up -- waiting

RE: Finding Comfort - Any Signs After They Passed?...

by carrieg55 on Thu Jul 24, 2014 03:36 PM

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I am happy to report I have slept in our bed for the last two nights!!!!! I do feel better, I still need to keep the tv on and a light I do have the light on a timer and I have been waking at some point and turning off the tv......its an improvement....baby steps....not sure what I think would happen if I didn't have a light or the tv on.......hmmmm might have to try it some night......

Thank you Bobs, Stephen, Wildrose, Irene, Sue, and all the others on the bereavement site it sure helps to read we are all going through the same struggles and what we do to get through another day, to learn how to live and go on even if it means baby steps all the way! you have all been a blessing to me, this site has been a blessing. 

RE: Finding Comfort - Any Signs After They Passed?...

by bobss396 on Thu Jul 24, 2014 04:01 PM

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On Jul 23, 2014 4:27 PM wildrose wrote:

That's great Bob !! I use to love redoing old furniture years ago when we lived on the farm and our kids were small. I have always thoght it would be fun to open a small store with redone old furniture but with the ecomony the way it is probably wouldn't work in this small town. But in the past I could just lose myself in the furniture thinking about who the people could have been that once owned it.

And if you redo a GTO let me know LOL

wildrose

My parents had a furniture business until my mom died in 1979. She did all the finish work and everything looked great. They worked out of the house work shop.

They restored some old chairs, my dad would make the missing or broken parts. He did an old ironing board one time, imagine who had used that?

No GTO, but they're nice cars. This is an older Ford. 

RE: Finding Comfort - Any Signs After They Passed?...

by wildrose on Thu Jul 24, 2014 04:03 PM

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YEA !!!! sister so happy for you and that's not a baby step that's a giant step !!!!!! I sleep with the t.v. on every night just because we did all the years we were married don't think I cold sleep any other way LOL .

we are stronger than we give ourselfs credit for because look what we have already been thru. I don't know about anone else but I feel as I went to hell and back with Mike at the end and would do it again. I'm not going to say that it can't get any worst than we have seen because I'm sure it cam but what the Lord takes you to you can handle because he gives you strength and now he will give us strength to pick ourselfs up and truely live again someday, maybe not in the way we use to but in a different way this time.

backroading I feel the need

wildrose

RE: Finding Comfort - Any Signs After They Passed?...

by bobss396 on Thu Jul 24, 2014 04:04 PM

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On Jul 24, 2014 3:36 PM carrieg55 wrote:

I am happy to report I have slept in our bed for the last two nights!!!!! I do feel better, I still need to keep the tv on and a light I do have the light on a timer and I have been waking at some point and turning off the tv......its an improvement....baby steps....not sure what I think would happen if I didn't have a light or the tv on.......hmmmm might have to try it some night......

Thank you Bobs, Stephen, Wildrose, Irene, Sue, and all the others on the bereavement site it sure helps to read we are all going through the same struggles and what we do to get through another day, to learn how to live and go on even if it means baby steps all the way! you have all been a blessing to me, this site has been a blessing. 

You have reached a milestone, good for you!

I have the TV on, the AC and a small fan. The noise is welcome. I still wake up at odd times. But I keep the bed neat with nothing else on it.

RE: Finding Comfort - Any Signs After They Passed?...

by waiting on Thu Jul 24, 2014 04:06 PM

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wildrose - y0u are coming along - waiting

RE: Finding Comfort - Any Signs After They Passed?...

by bobss396 on Thu Jul 24, 2014 04:08 PM

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On Jul 23, 2014 9:06 PM waiting wrote:

Bob - go out like you did when you ran into the friend from way back --by the way did you meet up again the following week - let me know - try and surround yourself with positive people - that way you won`t always feel the grief - keep talking to wildrose - she is definitely a positive force - and she is grieving to - but she strikes me as very positive - I think you are a nice person - but I cannot help but get the impression that you are too much involved in your grief - and do not take me wrong - I understand how you feel however do not allow the grief to take you over - Barb would not want that for you - waiting

I was out last night, my friend wasn't there but I'll give him a call.

Everyone I associate with is positive. They all know what a loss we all sustained with the loss of Barbara, so we all grieve together.

I'm trying not to let it get me down that much. Barbara would not have wanted that, but I'm sure she understands. I'm getting to know all of you good people here, glad we have each other.

RE: Finding Comfort - Any Signs After They Passed?...

by carrieg55 on Thu Jul 24, 2014 04:10 PM

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On Jul 24, 2014 3:36 PM carrieg55 wrote:

I am happy to report I have slept in our bed for the last two nights!!!!! I do feel better, I still need to keep the tv on and a light I do have the light on a timer and I have been waking at some point and turning off the tv......its an improvement....baby steps....not sure what I think would happen if I didn't have a light or the tv on.......hmmmm might have to try it some night......

Thank you Bobs, Stephen, Wildrose, Irene, Sue, and all the others on the bereavement site it sure helps to read we are all going through the same struggles and what we do to get through another day, to learn how to live and go on even if it means baby steps all the way! you have all been a blessing to me, this site has been a blessing. 

ooops forgot to mention my friend Marie who has also been an inspiration we seem to have an immediate connection our hubbys battled the same type of cancer. 

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