My father has metastasized bile duct cancer

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My father has metastasized bile duct cancer

by icotnoir on Mon Nov 04, 2013 05:54 PM

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I'm new here.  Essentially looking to give and receive support.  It's such a hard time right now, so unfair...

My father's first bought of cancer was about 8ish years ago.  He had kidney cancer but they found it early enough that they just took the kidney out and that was it, no chemo.  He was fine after that.  This summer, he suddenly developped jaundice.  They thought that one of his gall stones had blocked something.  But when they did further testing, they said it was bile duct cancer.

The doctors were optimistic that they could remove it.  Take out the bile duct, gallbladder and about half the liver.  But when they got in there, they saw that they couldn't do anything.  The surgery was beginning of october.  He's since been trying to recover from that surgery in order to start some intense chemo/radiation but the healing isn't going as smoothly as we'd like.  He ended up with an infection and is in the hospital right now.

They did a scan on him over the weekend.  It's metastasized itself into both lobes of the liver and also the gallbladder.  They're saying that he might have about 6-10 months left.  Maybe a little longer with treatments... if he ever gets to start his treatments.

 It's hard to see the person I consider the strongest man in my life, slowly become weaker and weaker.  My mother is being incredible throughout this whole thing.  She's a strong woman!  I wish I were as strong as her.  Seems like I cry every other sentence.  I know it's good to cry but I don't want my last few moments with him to be of us crying.  I'd rather be smiling with him.  It's hard not to get overwhelmed by the sadness.  Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can overcome my sadness so that I can remain strong in his time of need?

Thanks

RE: My father has metastasized bile duct cancer

by daddysdaughter on Tue Nov 05, 2013 05:28 PM

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Hello-

I told myself I wasn't going back on here because it was just too hard to talk about. I lost my father at the age of 68 to bole duct cancer on Oct 20, 2013. The last 6 weeks are just  too hard to talk about. I will say this....My father was diagnosed three years ago and they told him he had three months to live. He decided to try chemo even after they told him it doesnt typically help. He never lost his hair and had a pretty good quality of life for 2 1/2 years. He took a sudden turn for the worse and in Early Sept and at the time it was happening it felt like the clock wasnt moving. Now that he is gone...that was the fastest 6 weeks of my life. The entire family traveled and spent time in Nashville just 6 months ago...dad too. I am deeply sorry you are going through this. I understand how you feel. My father too was a strong man. He had a wife of 50 years, 4 daughters, 9 grandchildren and 3 great grand children. I try to hold on to what a wondeful life he had. Take Care.

Daddys Daughter

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