Tough Time

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Tough Time

by Glitzy12944 on Mon Mar 24, 2014 01:20 AM

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Just found out on Friday that one of our friends, who was very involved in the military side of helping my husband.  He came by several times.  I literally just saw him at my husband's funeral on base a few weeks ago, just took his life.  He was 29 and my husband and I became really close to him.  This grief on top of losing my husband, it's awful.  Please send me some good thoughts tonight.

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by DharmaGirl on Mon Mar 24, 2014 02:01 AM

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Wow,  this is a really hard thing to deal with. I have known two people that committed suicide , they were both co workers. I saw both of them the day they took their lives. I will always remember the last thing that each one said to me because it all seemed so normal. One told me that she was going home and making tacos for dinner, but when is got home that is not what happened. The other person told my husband (we were at a bar after work ) take care of your wife, she is one of the good ones and then he gave me a kiss on the cheek  and said see you later, but that night he put a gun to his head.  

It is shocking and you wonder why you didn't see it , could you have stop it and WHY did this person feel this was the only way out of all of the pain. 

This is really the last thing that you need right now , you have so much on your plate.  

Sending positive thoughts into the universe for you .

D

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by Marie55 on Mon Mar 24, 2014 01:50 PM

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I am so sorry your heart is heavy with more sorrow. Who knows the torments of the mind this person went through and sad he didn't reach out to get help. His family must be heartbroken. Glitzy, the Lord has a plan for you and your son. Keep strong. I know not easy. Grief is just so painful and feels like a living hell... Sending you a hug....

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by SarahGrey on Mon Mar 24, 2014 03:16 PM

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Oh wow, Glitzy...  I'm sorry...

It's so sad how there are countless people (like on this forum) who are fighting with all they have for just one more week, one more day, one more hour...  And then other people end their own lives.  :(  But like Marie said, surely those who commit suicide have to be horribly tormented by something and it's sad that they were not able to get the help they needed...  :(

Thinking of you and wishing you peace and comfort...  Sarah

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by JackieJo on Mon Mar 24, 2014 04:59 PM

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Glitzy...I'm so sorry to hear about the suicide of your friend. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your friends family. My heart breaks knowing that you now are grieving for not only the love of your life...your husband...but also for a close friend too. I have a couple friends in their 40's/early 50's that are in the military and it's often talked about how many of the younger military men are haunted to the point of suicide because of the death and devastation they witness while fighting for our country. I have a relative whose brother did 2 tours of duty overseas. His dad passed away about a year later and 3 days after his fathers death, he took his own life. He was in his early 20's. My heart goes out to anyone who gets to the point of committing suicide. They are fighing terrible demons within themselves that bring them to drastic measures. I'm so sorry that you're having to mourn another loss in your life. It just doesn't seem fair. You are in my thoughts and I'm saying extra prayers for your peace and comfort in the difficult times ahead. I just wish that I could do or day something to take away the pain you must be in. 

Love, Hugs and Continuing Prayers

JackieJo

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by eastwest on Tue Mar 25, 2014 12:51 PM

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Glitzy   So sad. I am sorry for another loss in your life. We just don't know what another person is going through within themselves. Only good thoughts coming your way. Irene

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by RobinMB on Wed Mar 26, 2014 01:09 AM

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Oh Glitzy, that is devastating!!!  I so worry about those who are in the military.  Some seem so detached and depressed at times.  I am a college professor.  I make it a point to discuss depression and suicide with my students.  We have so many students who just got out of the military and are working on their degrees.  But, as I tell my students, this is a form of situation stress for you.  As you move forward with your life, things will get better for you.  You are a young person with a lot of living left to do.  I have a feeling that good things are in your future.  Try to surround yourself with positive people.  And, remember, you are doing the best that you can.

Robin

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by RobinMB on Wed Mar 26, 2014 01:10 AM

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That reply was supposed to say "situational stress" meaning it will change as your situation changes.

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