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Moved!

by Glitzy12944 on Sat May 10, 2014 12:54 AM

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Yeah so what everyone says about not making big decisions the first year after your spouse has died, yeah they might be onto something.  I'm pretty sure moving was one of the hardest things ever.  We had only ever lived in that house, in that town together, and watching our lives be packed into boxes, driving away from the town, people and comfort of my life there to the unknown was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life.  I am moved into my new house.  And it's adorable.  But man, unpacking and trying to get settled, sucks.  I am desperate to nest and make this house a home.  Everyone thinks I'm crazy and that I'm pushing myself, but I just want to feel settled.  And maybe the grief will be easier to bear.  Probably not, but at least I will have a cute house. I have been thinking of you ladies!

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by JackieJo on Sat May 10, 2014 01:16 AM

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I'm so happy that you are moved into your house! Yes packing and unpacking is the pits but just think once you're all unpacked you can sit back and enjoy your beautiful new home!! What an accomplishment!! I was just thinking about you the other day and was wondering how you were doing. I'm so glad to see your post and know that you're doing really good!! Kudo's to you!!! It took a lot of courage to do what you did but you did it and you should be so proud of yourself!!!! Wishing you many happy years in you beautiful new house!!! 

Love, hugs and continuing prayers

JackieJo

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by SarahGrey on Sat May 10, 2014 01:23 AM

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Hi Glitzy,

Oh wonderful!  Congrats on finding a great house and for making the big move :)  I hope each day there is a blessed one for you and your son :)

As for people thinking you're crazy and pushing youself...  geez.  People really need to stop making judgments.  You're doing what feels right to you and what you need to do.  That's all the matters...  And, keeping busy is probably the BEST thing you can do.  And by nesting, settling into the new home, you are doing "creative" things, which is also one of the best things during grief.  And, you're only doing positive things, so please ignore anyone who is commenting negatively...  You're doing great!

Wishing you all the best, Sarah

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by Ozgirl on Sat May 10, 2014 06:59 AM

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Glitzy, I'm so happy for you. We have discovered that life needs to be lived on our terms. The greatest give we have from having to endure the horrors of caring for spouses as they lived with a terminal illness is to do what feels right. Always! Take care and happy nesting:)

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by Shereeclint on Sat May 10, 2014 12:32 PM

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Glitzy,

Tomorrow is Mother’s Day as you know. Your son is far too young to understand its significance, and your husband is no longer around to act on behalf of your son, so it will mostly likely be bittersweet. On behalf of everyone from this site who loves you I am sending you a Mother’s Day greeting.

Your path going forward will not be an easy one; that you know. What you may not fully appreciate is the internal strength that has been afforded you by our Creator. It is written that GOD created man out of dust. Sometime thereafter He created a helper for man. This creature, named woman, was a refinement of man, meaning that GOD created a more glorious creature from what He had made before. You are that refinement. How else could you pick up and move on so quickly? A man would still be in shock, unable to move in any direction.

You remind me of the mother’s that came with their children on the Mayflower, almost 400 hundred years ago, looking for a new land where they could worship and seek a personal relationship with the GOD of the Bible without having to go through an inter mediator, which in their case was the Church of England and it’s king. The Bible, which few of us today believe is still relevant ( by the mere fact that it is seldom read) , had just been massed produced and its impact on the pilgrims moved them to seek a new life.

There were 14 mothers on that ill fated ship. They missed their destination and found themselves near what would later become Salem, Massachusetts, in the middle of a brutal winter. Of those 14 brave mothers aboard, NONE survived. Records reveal that each died of exposure as they shielded their children from the cold and gave up their meager rations to them as well.

Jesus was possibly speaking directly about these brave young women when He stated “Greater LOVE has no one than this: To lay down one’s own life for another” John 15:12-14.

As this Mother’s Day comes upon us, you are in my prayers, an example of which follows.

Our Father, HOLY is your name. I come to you today in a state of humility and weakness. For unlike You, I am as weak as my body, a body which will one day no longer support me, as the body of Glitzy’s husband no longer supports him. I come not to ask for personal blessings; rather I pray that you will place your hedge of protection around this suffering young woman who must now raise a child on her own. Jesus, you promised us prior to returning to The Father, that You would never forsake us and that You would be with us always, even until the end of the Age. While Glitzy may feel a reluctance to ask, I feel compelled to plead for divine support on her behalf. I also pray that she will come to know You. I remember your comment “Trust in The Father, and Trust also in Me.” Trust comes from a relationship, and I pray that her relationship with You grows over the coming years as she feels Your presence in her life. Thank you for this wonderful woman and now mother. In the name of Jesus Christ, our Savior, Lord, and Friend, I pray.

Clint

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by mavcav on Sat May 10, 2014 11:38 PM

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Glitzy,

As difficult as it is, don't care what others think of you and what you are doing.  Easier said then done, but only you know what is best for you right now and what other people think is not at all important due to them not being you.    ;-)

You feeling the need to push yourself and get settled in as quickly as possible makes sense to me.    ;-)    Your life has been in absolute turmoil and so much has been up in the air for so long that having things in your home that are in their proper place, etc. helps to create a bit of "stability" in your life so there is nothing wrong with that.

I wish you and your son the best and hope that you will enjoy your new home.       :-)                mavcav

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by eternalife on Sat May 10, 2014 11:58 PM

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Way to go, Glitzy,

I have been thinking of you and want to say way to go!!! You show courage and strength in a difficult situation.

It will be fun to have a new beginning with your son.. keep on ' truckin.

Best

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by mltull on Sun May 11, 2014 01:25 AM

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I'm SO proud of you, sweet Glitzy!  Wish we could all come to see you and have a housewarming.  Much love and blessings to you, my friend!  Hang in there.  You are an overcomer!

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by maxiteach on Sun May 11, 2014 05:33 AM

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I was so glad to hear from you as I too have been thinking about you and how you are doing. Glitzy 8 months after I lost my husband, I moved from my hometown about 10 hours south to a different house. I felt overwhelmed by all the unpacking but kept going until I was settled in! I too felt that I needed to "nest" right away! I also felt that I had a new city to explore and I hit many thrift shops finding new treasures for my home. I donated a lot of the old and brought in the new! Of couse most of my furniture came with me but I actually needed familiar things around me. Keeping busy has been the key thing to getting through this terrible grieving time! I wish you the best in your new home! Enjoy your sweet son on Mother's Day! He must bring you joy in your life as I hope your new home and surroundings do!

Maxi

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by Marie55 on Sun May 11, 2014 06:36 AM

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Glitzy, You are an amazing woman and mother. I read all your posts before I joined this forum and knew I was in the right place. You had such strength and focus and I admire those qualities. You have been through so much for such a young age and all with grace and dignity. I wish you comfort and peace in your new home and so glad you are settling in. May your Mother's Day be peaceful. Many blessings, Marie
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