Are you feeling blue today?

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RE: Are you feeling blue today?

by angel1959 on Wed May 28, 2014 10:06 PM

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Sarah I know how you are feeling we found out 30th May that the cancer went to his brain 2012 he died 5 months later and it was our last summer together didn't do much because he had seizures a lot and sept 7th was the last day he walked last summer was my first without him and i hated it all the new life around you the couples out just so so hard i pray for peace for all of us

RE: Are you feeling blue today?

by Marie55 on Tue Jun 03, 2014 03:07 PM

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Going on three months since I lost my soulmate. Just feel like I am on autopilot most of the time. I just try and keep my thoughts in the moment or day and not look or peak down the road. Joined some support groups and that helps to share and be with other women going through the same feelings and grief. The loneliness in the house has not subsided even though I keep busy out of the house with volunteer work. Just feel like my life has turned upside down. I send a hug to all who are going through the same.

RE: Are you feeling blue today?

by carrieg55 on Tue Jun 03, 2014 03:13 PM

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I am just trying to go through the motions of getting through the days, I miss my hubby so much that it hurts. Hubbys urn arrived yesterday I had this thought I am going to write him a love letter I am going to put it in the urn with a picture of our wedding he will have it forever it brings me peace.

So much to do I would just like to run away from it all. 

RE: Are you feeling blue today?

by eternalife on Tue Jun 03, 2014 10:04 PM

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Aw Carrrie,

I like your idea of writing your husband a love letter, I will do the same.. the hurt will never go away, maybe that will be the least we can do to honour our loved one.

Best,

RE: Are you feeling blue today?

by carrieg55 on Wed Jun 04, 2014 01:19 AM

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How do we get through this it will be three weeks this Thursday I am so sad so lost I wouldn't wish this on my worse enemy ...the hurt the loneliness...the void. I had to look at the calendar to make sure it has only been three weeks I don't even want to keep track of the day my sweet husband went to heaven.

Last Thursday was hubbys memorial in the North that is where we were from originaly.... it was a very hard day this was the start of the final goodbyes. Picking up his death certificate and ashes were also difficult all these steps along the way just make it seem so final.

When I came back from the North I dropped my suitcase by the door and that is where it has been ever since everything feels exhausting I just want him back.

This Saturday will be his memorial at our church then on Monday he will be put in urnment in his final resting place I dread these days I don't want to let go....I can't let go....

I thought about joining a bereavement group I am sure somewhere down the line I will...right now the hurt is still raw like an open wound...oh God please help me.....I know we are all supposed to be strong women we were caregivers the hardest job in the world I just don't feel that strong right now.  

RE: Are you feeling blue today?

by eternalife on Wed Jun 04, 2014 02:21 AM

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Carrie, I would recommend joining a support group, I have met some wonderful people from that, one widow has become a good friend , we're both the same age and are able to talk our sadness out and share.

Strength in numbers...

Take care and take it slow... we are not in a race.

Best

RE: Are you feeling blue today?

by Marie55 on Wed Jun 04, 2014 05:31 AM

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Dear Carrie, when I read your posts I always feel we are on the same journey in life. My heart breaks for your pain and grief. I think I shared that I joined support groups - three different ones- and all have helped and are each a bit different. I can pick and choose as the emotional need arises. It does help to share all what we are going through.... No one seems to understand that deep pain until they have gone through it ... The people who grab my hand or hug instantly have lost a loved one. Take it day by day and as someone shared with me Close your eyes - quiet -- your husband is with YOU always.... Hugs, Marie
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