throat,tongue, tonsils cancer

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throat,tongue, tonsils cancer

by jacq-e on Sun Jun 29, 2014 05:51 AM

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My husband has stage 4 throat cancer that started at the brace of his tongue and spread to both sides of neck, nodes on both sides of his throat and 2 growths in side his esophagus keeping him from breathing and eat and drinking.

He has lost over 100 lbs in a few months and now had both a trach and a feeding tube..

My Question is over the past few days he has started repeating himself and asking the same question over and over... is this a sign that it may have spread to is brain?

I honestly don't know how much more he can take... 

He is my Rock and I feel as if I'm failing him..

I feel lost with out his strength.

I miss the sound of his laughter..

Why him?

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by gr0619064 on Sun Jun 29, 2014 11:24 AM

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Jacq-e

Sometimes chemo does that

gary

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by Sasha1234 on Sun Jun 29, 2014 02:33 PM

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Hi,

I am sorry for the challenges facing you and your husband.

My sister had breast cancer that spread to her brain stem, and I believe the diagnosis that it had spread was though a test (MRI or CT Scan or PetScan, not sure which one). I don't believe she repeated herself, but instead had problems controlling her body and limbs after it has spread to her brain.

I would stay as positive as you can and find whatever joy you can find in life each day -- his situation can turn around.  What are you trying besides traditional medicine to help him?  I was stage three esophageal cancer this time last year and in addition to traditional medicine, I tried anything and everything I read about that helped people with cancer.  There are lots of books about what helps as well as information on the internet.  I personally tried massage, vegan food, ginger water, alkaline foods/water, meditation, music, light exercise, uplifting environment (my daughter painted a wall bright yellow), avoiding negative thoughts and people, juicing, organic foods, etc.  At this time I have no evidence of disease, but I don't know exactly which treatment (chemo, radiation, surgery, etc.) turned it around for me.  I have heard of people with advanced cancers that recovered so don't give up!!  (That said, I also got my affairs in order and made plans for my children.  I hoped for the best and planned for the worst.)

Best wishes,

Sasha

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by pam_murphy on Wed Jul 02, 2014 01:28 PM

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Yes Jacq-e, sometimes the treatment will cause the closing of the throat. The feeding tube is essential for keeping him fed and making sure he gets plenty of protein and nutriants. My dad fights us about using it but it's the only thing sometimes that's keeping him from starving to death. It's horrible to watch someone we love so much have to go this but I promised my dad that when he decided to have therapy that I would support him and do everything I knew how to do to take care of him. I question whether I'm stronge enough but as long as he has the fight to fight, that's what we'll do. I'm not a doctor but I would definitely get him checked out because it's possible that it could be spreading. I watch my dad get weaker and weaker and it's heartbreaking but to see your husband going thru this must be devestating. You are not failing him. Just be there....love him....support him and try to be strong for him. I wish you both the best and will pray for you. Please keep in touch and let me know how things are going. Sometimes we only have each other to lean on....God Bless

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by pam_murphy on Wed Jul 02, 2014 01:30 PM

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Yes Jacq-e, sometimes the treatment will cause the closing of the throat. The feeding tube is essential for keeping him fed and making sure he gets plenty of protein and nutriants. My dad fights us about using it but it's the only thing sometimes that's keeping him from starving to death. It's horrible to watch someone we love so much have to go thru this but I promised my dad that when he decided to have therapy that I would support him and do everything I knew how to do to take care of him. I question whether I'm stronge enough but as long as he has the fight to fight, that's what we'll do. I'm not a doctor but I would definitely get him checked out because it's possible that it could be spreading. I watch my dad get weaker and weaker and it's heartbreaking but to see your husband going thru this must be devestating. You are not failing him. Just be there....love him....support him and try to be strong for him. I wish you both the best and will pray for you. Please keep in touch and let me know how things are going. Sometimes we only have each other to lean on....God Bless

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by Bigjnelson on Mon Mar 04, 2019 03:32 AM

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How is your husband now.

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by Bigjnelson on Mon Mar 04, 2019 03:35 AM

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How are you feeling

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by Candie1 on Wed Aug 07, 2019 01:31 PM

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Hi Jaq-e;

I can related my husband had stage three throat cancer and was treated around a year ago, went to ENT yesterday and no cancer signs coming back but now he is having an issue with his vocal cords not working properly. They are not sure why... so more tests to be done. You CAN do this! Stay strong for him and say lots of prayers and know that there are others out there going through this with you. 

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