Annie is gone...

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Annie is gone...

by maxxschiken on Thu Dec 04, 2014 11:01 AM

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Sorry I've been away. Annie's cognative impairment worsened after starting folfiri on Sept 22 so on Nov 11 we had an MRI which told us her cancer had metastisiced to her brain. I chose to keep her in the comfort of our home instead of taking her to Stanford for them to perform procedures for releaving the swelling in her brain. I basically told our oncologist, enough was enough and I did not want to subjecdt her to poking and prodding to give me what? A few more days? We opened our doors from November 11. For 12 days we surrounded her with family, relatives and friends each day until Annie closed her eyes and fell into a deep sleep on Wednesday November 19. She slept peacefully, with no pain, no pain medications for three days until she took her final breath at 12:45pm on Sunday November 23.

Today, she will be cremated and I will bring her ashes home at 3:30pm PST where we will keep her in a special cove in our homes stairwell. Annie was victorious in this 3 year journey with stage 4 inoperable adenocarcinoma of the pancreas with liver mets. The fact her recurrences never came back to those primary locations and made it to her brain, statistically only 3% ever reach this and it was a huge blessing she had no pain and had not taken any pain meds since prior to September of this year. It was a peaceful passing I would wish for anyone including myself.

Thank you for all your support on the forum since 2011.

~jeffB

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by PunkyD on Thu Dec 04, 2014 12:36 PM

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Dear Jeff,

I am SO sorry to hear about Annie's passing.  She was such a survivor, and I read many of your posts about her incredible will to live and lengthy battle with PC.  Whenever you posted, I knew it would be a post of positive hope to others.  A peaceful end is definitely a blessing. 

Sending you strength during this difficult time.  May you cherish all of the wonderful memories that you share together. 

Punky

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by eternalife on Thu Dec 04, 2014 02:43 PM

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Hi Jeff,

I have followed your journey on line with your wife and do want to express my sincere sympathy in what has happened. There were many times that I felt that you would be one of the few who would make it through and beat the beast. While 3 years was more than most, it is still a terrible blow.

Wishing you peace as you find another path to follow. Be kind to yourself and remember everything was not lost in vain.

Best

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by bobss396 on Thu Dec 04, 2014 05:31 PM

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M wife Barbara only fought the battle for about 8 months, I wish she would have been around longer than that.

In the end, she also deteriorated mentally and we never found out if the cancer had spread to her brain. By then she was in her final month and spent her last 2 weeks in hospice, also totally surrounded by family and friends.

Sad, but you have to let someone who is so gravely ill to go onto the next world.

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by Carien on Thu Dec 04, 2014 08:41 PM

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Really sorry to hear your news, Jeff. But how wonderful that you facilitated her departing like that: at home surrounded by people that love her, and without pain.....

I can only hope that if/when that time comes for me someone will take care of me like you did for her. In general, it always gave me joy to see how proud you were of her and her (succesfull) battle. I wish you strength and love of the people close to you to cope with Annie's loss.

Carien 

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by atcinbonita on Thu Dec 04, 2014 09:29 PM

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So sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my partner 2 months ago today. Today I cried a bit, thinking about him. God Bless you and your family. Prayers and Hugs to you.

ART

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by tjvonblueberry on Fri Dec 05, 2014 04:01 AM

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My deepest sympathy for you and your family.  RIP Annie!

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by Kjohnchas on Fri Dec 05, 2014 09:00 AM

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Jeff,,,,,,,I am so sorry,,I just can't BELEIVE it. Your were one of the first to give me hope over 2 years ago. You were a wonderful caregiver to Annie. What a blessing she had no pain and was peaceful. My prayers I send to you to stay strong,,,,,God bless kathy

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by carshe on Tue Dec 09, 2014 02:28 PM

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So sorry Jeff for your loss of Annie. May she rest in peace. T Sending love and prayerss your way. Xxoo

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by MaryLB on Wed Dec 10, 2014 03:31 AM

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On Dec 04, 2014 11:01 AM maxxschiken wrote:

Sorry I've been away. Annie's cognative impairment worsened after starting folfiri on Sept 22 so on Nov 11 we had an MRI which told us her cancer had metastisiced to her brain. I chose to keep her in the comfort of our home instead of taking her to Stanford for them to perform procedures for releaving the swelling in her brain. I basically told our oncologist, enough was enough and I did not want to subjecdt her to poking and prodding to give me what? A few more days? We opened our doors from November 11. For 12 days we surrounded her with family, relatives and friends each day until Annie closed her eyes and fell into a deep sleep on Wednesday November 19. She slept peacefully, with no pain, no pain medications for three days until she took her final breath at 12:45pm on Sunday November 23.

Today, she will be cremated and I will bring her ashes home at 3:30pm PST where we will keep her in a special cove in our homes stairwell. Annie was victorious in this 3 year journey with stage 4 inoperable adenocarcinoma of the pancreas with liver mets. The fact her recurrences never came back to those primary locations and made it to her brain, statistically only 3% ever reach this and it was a huge blessing she had no pain and had not taken any pain meds since prior to September of this year. It was a peaceful passing I would wish for anyone including myself.

Thank you for all your support on the forum since 2011.

~jeffB

Sorry for your loss, she fought a long battle and you were right when you said enough is enough. To see them suffering like that is the most horrible thing I had to witness. May she rest in peace, god bless you and your family.

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