Colon Cancer

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Colon Cancer

by Miadowls on Wed Dec 17, 2014 05:38 PM

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Hi everyone, my mom has stage 4 colon cancer and refuses chemo.  I need help trying to understand her way of thought.  I support her on her journey but feel helpless.  Anyone else going through this?

 

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by VirgilZ on Thu Dec 18, 2014 01:23 AM

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I was diagnosed with Stage IV Colon Cancer in June.  Stage IV means the cancer has spread to other areas of the body away from the colon (typically lymph nodes, liver or lungs) and are referred to as mets.  Chemo is a way to slow down the growth of the mets and the cancer within the colon.  Chemo has been a tough journey for me, but I have stuck it out and will be through with the 12 treatments by the end of the year.  I have been on a chemo regimen called Folfox6.  There are a number of regimens available and chosen by the oncologist.  I will undergo surgury to remove a portion of the colon that has the cancer.  I understand your mother's anxiety regarding chemo, but it has been proven to extend one's life.  It obviously has side effects, but these are short term and with support from you and others, she can make it through chemo.  I have had two CT scans that show a reduction in the size of the mets, which is positive and is the result of the chemo treatments.  You have to realize the choice is your mothers and she needs to be in control of her destiny.  Help her become informed of cancer treatments and how they will help not only extend her life, but will also help in less pain if she would not have treatment at all.  Talk with your mother, but don't be judgemental.  She will need an outlet to talk and figure things out for herself and she may change how she feels about treatment.  Wishing you well.

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by Cwebster on Thu Dec 18, 2014 01:57 AM

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Hi. I do not have your exact situation but can only say as a person facing possible cancer and a diffinate surgery to find out, it is scary and your Mom just needs you to listen to her as she processes what is happening to her. It is hard to wrap your mind around what the Dr.,s are saying. She is in shock. Likely in denial. Not that denial is a bad thing as I do believe we are in charge of our own health and no Dr can give us an expiration date. Just try to be there for her and encourage her to talk through her feelings, fears etc with you without judgement. It is her life , her cancer. I hope this helps. Everyone is different in how the handle things. I also recommend trying to stay positive. I have been listening to soothing music in the mornings while getting ready for the day and listening to meditations on reducing fear and anxiety. This is helping my outlook. I pray you come together and find peace.

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by waiting on Thu Dec 18, 2014 08:12 AM

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hi miadowls - my husband had colon cancer and elected to not have chemo or radiation - when he was diagnosed he was given 3 to 6 months - he lived for almost 2 years - there are pain killers that can be taken - in pill form - and the last six months he was on a very low dose morphine pump - he was co - herent and moving around until the last three days.

I do not know how old your mom is - however she could live a long time - under a doctors care - and having you there in a loving and supportive capacity would be the best blessing she can have.   The important thing is to try and keep her up-lifted and positive - it will help her immensely - my  husband had a cheerful and positive demeanor - and it really helped him - that was his normal nature - however being surrounded by positive and encouraging family members would really help your mom -  do not feel helpless - just love and support her and do everything you can to keep her content and comfortable - I will say a prayer for you and your mom - and I wish you all the best in your journey - God speed

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by Miadowls on Thu Dec 18, 2014 01:15 PM

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Thank you, great advise.  My mothers
Dr called her last night and she has now agreed to the chemo.  I cant tell you how happy I feel today.  Crazy to be happy about chemo but I at least have hope.

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by Miadowls on Thu Dec 18, 2014 02:30 PM

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My mom has agreed to try the chemo!  We are all very happy today. Thank you!

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by Cwebster on Thu Dec 18, 2014 02:35 PM

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Great. Keep us posted.

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by waiting on Thu Dec 18, 2014 03:53 PM

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Miadowls - I am happy for you - it will help ease your stress as you have a journey ahead of you - you sound like a very loving daughter.

My husbands choice was his and I respected that - and in his case it worked out well - he had a longer time - it appears your mothers Doctor sees a better future for your mom or he woud not have pursued the chemo side of things - there is more and more positive outcomes for colon cancer and I will pray for your mom - the fact that she has agreed to the chemo is a positive sign - and she is looking forward - today is my bday so I will say your mother agreeing to chemo is a bday gift to me - even though I do not know her . Have a peaceful and loving Christmas with your mom and family - and I wish her increase in health for the year 2015 -ALL THE BEST - Waiting

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by Miadowls on Thu Dec 18, 2014 03:59 PM

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Thank you and Merry Christmas!

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by ReleaseMe on Thu Dec 18, 2014 10:00 PM

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Hello Mia, Im sorry to hear that you mom has been dx with colon cancer and that your family is now living a nightmare. My mom was dx with stage 3c colon cancer in 2010 , it metastasised to her liver and lungs and then it became stage iv. She passed in January of this year. There is no cure for stage iv colon cancer, the only thing that treatment can do now is buy your mom time. The side effects of chemo, rad and surgery can be VERY HARSH and I believe make the body, mind and immune system weaker. My mom's body was destroyed as a result of too many surgeries, too much chemo and too much rad. Oncologists won't tell your mom to stop until the very end, they don't know when to say enough is enough. So at this point its about quality of life or quantity of life. How does your mom what to spend her last days ? If your mom tells you that she's done with or doesn't  want to do treatment then , please just except it. My advice is forget the treatment and spend as much time laughing, crying, talking, LOVING and LIVING as you can together. 

All the best to you and your mom ~ Jillian

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