as one year ends and another begins

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RE: as one year ends and another begins

by carrieg55 on Tue Feb 23, 2016 03:47 PM

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On Jan 25, 2016 6:46 PM carrieg55 wrote:

Hello Everyone,

Just wanted to check in with everybody. What brought me back to the site is a friend of mine that I grew up with we went to school from 3rd grade on has been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, I don't have all the information yet as to what type, stage, etc., her doctor called and told her they believe she has cancer of the pancreas and it has also spread to the liver? .....not sure tomorrow she is going for another test then I guess we will all know more.

I spoke to my friend today we talked for an hour on the phone I told her about getting help with treatments, to having her husband apply for FMLA I shared as much information as I could I live in Florida and she lives in Illinois I just wanted to help anyway I could, it was so good to talk to her I pray she will live a long time with treatment.

I got through the holidays ok, it seems like after the holidays all heck broke loose with friends and family and Illness.

Jimmy has been in heaven for 20 months now, doesn't seem possible, this is the second Christmas I have celebrated without him, he is on my mind all the time. We did put up a tree the deal was my gentleman friend would put up the tree and the grandsons and daughter would decorate it, the memories came flooding back as I saw all the ornaments and decorations. Of course it was my job to take it all down and put it all away......my mind filled with thoughts of Christmas's of the past our life our love. Even with somone new in my life the memories will never leave, there will always be a special place in my heart for Jimmy he was my love, my life, we shared almost 12 years together that is a lot of time to make memories and we sure did!!!!!

Carrie

Hello Everyone,

Just wanted to give an update on this last post about my lifetime friend. All the test have been done my friend has been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer with mets to the liver, not sure if it has spread to the brain I am thinking that test came back negative or I would have heard by now.

This has hit me hard this is a girlfriend that I grew up with we went to school together we met in 3rd grade and have been friends ever since, I also have another friend we met in kindergarten so we have all remained friends through the years we have seen each other through marriage, birth of our children, divorces, even death (my sweet hubby) we have shared our journey of life since we were kids, it truly hurts to know that one of us is now battling cancer it is really hitting close to home.

I am grateful they did not mention the pancreas again. I can only draw from my own experience my late hubby battled stage 4 lung cancer for 3 years and 3 months after date of diagnosis.

I am trying to be supportive to my friend I call her and text her, she lives in the North I live in the South. My heart goes out to her and her family I know the long hard road she is on I have been there before with my sweet hubby.

Please keep my friend in prayer her name is Diana.

Hugs to everyone, my heart goes out to you all.

Carrie

RE: as one year ends and another begins

by StanToronto on Tue Feb 23, 2016 07:06 PM

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Sandy said,

"Funny you mentioned this grief site. I sent several message to 3 of the churches listed in my area and not one of them contacted me back. So, I decided that is not right for me."

From years of experience, I know that is just what to expect from an email to a church. With no one even their most of the week, whoever is in the office that day just shuffles off anything that is pertinent to them, and the the intended recipient is often unaware that anyone was trying to contact them. That's just the nature of the beast.

If you call them on the phone, and no one answers, it's for the same reason no one responds to your email. You really have to contact the church by phone, and get the phone and email address of the one(s) looking after the Grief Share program. They will be much more interested in interfacing with you, than the kid that might have dropped for a day or so to look after to books.

RE: as one year ends and another begins

by Shereeclint on Tue Feb 23, 2016 07:12 PM

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On Feb 23, 2016 3:47 PM carrieg55 wrote:

On Jan 25, 2016 6:46 PM carrieg55 wrote:

Hello Everyone,

Just wanted to check in with everybody. What brought me back to the site is a friend of mine that I grew up with we went to school from 3rd grade on has been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, I don't have all the information yet as to what type, stage, etc., her doctor called and told her they believe she has cancer of the pancreas and it has also spread to the liver? .....not sure tomorrow she is going for another test then I guess we will all know more.

I spoke to my friend today we talked for an hour on the phone I told her about getting help with treatments, to having her husband apply for FMLA I shared as much information as I could I live in Florida and she lives in Illinois I just wanted to help anyway I could, it was so good to talk to her I pray she will live a long time with treatment.

I got through the holidays ok, it seems like after the holidays all heck broke loose with friends and family and Illness.

Jimmy has been in heaven for 20 months now, doesn't seem possible, this is the second Christmas I have celebrated without him, he is on my mind all the time. We did put up a tree the deal was my gentleman friend would put up the tree and the grandsons and daughter would decorate it, the memories came flooding back as I saw all the ornaments and decorations. Of course it was my job to take it all down and put it all away......my mind filled with thoughts of Christmas's of the past our life our love. Even with somone new in my life the memories will never leave, there will always be a special place in my heart for Jimmy he was my love, my life, we shared almost 12 years together that is a lot of time to make memories and we sure did!!!!!

Carrie

Hello Everyone,

Just wanted to give an update on this last post about my lifetime friend. All the test have been done my friend has been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer with mets to the liver, not sure if it has spread to the brain I am thinking that test came back negative or I would have heard by now.

This has hit me hard this is a girlfriend that I grew up with we went to school together we met in 3rd grade and have been friends ever since, I also have another friend we met in kindergarten so we have all remained friends through the years we have seen each other through marriage, birth of our children, divorces, even death (my sweet hubby) we have shared our journey of life since we were kids, it truly hurts to know that one of us is now battling cancer it is really hitting close to home.

I am grateful they did not mention the pancreas again. I can only draw from my own experience my late hubby battled stage 4 lung cancer for 3 years and 3 months after date of diagnosis.

I am trying to be supportive to my friend I call her and text her, she lives in the North I live in the South. My heart goes out to her and her family I know the long hard road she is on I have been there before with my sweet hubby.

Please keep my friend in prayer her name is Diana.

Hugs to everyone, my heart goes out to you all.

Carrie

Hi Carrie,

Like everyone who has taken a moment to read your post, my heart goes out to you and your lifetime friend. You know, it is not just a coincidence that both your life experiences have played out the way you describe. You have been given a wonderful blessing to be there for her in this, her most difficult trial.

Most would be paralyzed in fear, having little or nothing to draw upon to give to her. You are the exception. Your pain and suffering is real, palpable, and now she is where you were. You have been blessed in that your loss can now be transformed into a gain for her, and maybe for you as well.

GOD loves her. You are testimony to GOD’s love for her in that He has ensured that when this tragedy struck, she would have you to lean on. GOD promises all who know Him that when something like this happens, and it will happen to each of us eventually, He will not leave us alone. You are His representative since you have a unique skill set for sincere empathy developed by your own tragedy.

I will pray for Diana. Please tell her that Jesus loves her so much that He would have suffered his own death on the cross if she was the only one who ever lived to accept him as Lord and Savior. Jesus knows suffering which is why He will never leave her or forsake her.

Often, we mistakenly think that this has happened because of something we have done wrong or not done right in our life. That is not true. We live in a fallen where suffering is everywhere and inevitable. That will not change until we leave our bodies and meet our Savior on the other side.

Please tell her that GOD loves her, and so do I. I will lift her name in prayer to the throne room in Heaven. I pray God's blessing on you as you minister to your friend in these dark days.

Clint  

        

RE: as one year ends and another begins

by sandy26 on Tue Feb 23, 2016 08:52 PM

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Clint,

Are you a priest or minister?

Sandy

RE: as one year ends and another begins

by Shereeclint on Tue Feb 23, 2016 09:53 PM

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Neither.

I lost my Dad last year to cancer. Two (2) years before that my brother contracted stage 4 throat cancer. Like the rest of us, I did not seek out cancer, it found me. 

As you probably know, Christianity is dying in this country. A quick look at this year’s crop of presidential candidates gives even the uninterested observer a pretty good idea of where we are.

Funny thing about a death of a loved one, it creates an environment where not of that matters. For many though, it is often the first time that the person gives any real attention to the afterlife, or even if there is an afterlife.

That is sad, since we will spend far more of our existence there, and yet, we shun it like it was another form of life threatening disease. What that does is make the process of dying far harder than it needs to be. People often think, "How can I reach out to a God that I have paid little more than lip service to for most of my life." These are real issues that need not be. 

I have found that GOD loves us because He chose to love us. It doesn’t matter that we have not acknowledged and responded to His love. What does matter though, is that we start now to seek His face, meaning that we put our faith and trust in Christ. The good news is that Jesus is always ready to step into our lives, even as we draw that last breath.

I found, even in my Dad, that he felt it was just a little too little, too late. He ultimately changed his mind, and I want everyone else who might feel likewise to know that as long as we are drawing a breath, we still have time. I just love that knowledge and like to share it, even though it is rejected daily.

No, I am not a minister or a priest, however Jesus does call His own, a Royal Priesthood. By the way, I am not royalty either, on the earth that is. LOL

Clint  

  

 

    

RE: as one year ends and another begins

by StanToronto on Tue Feb 23, 2016 10:14 PM

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Sandy,

What is your impression of what Clint has had to say?

- Do you agreed with everything he has said;

- Some of what he has said; or

- Are there problem areas you disagree with, and would like to challenge; or would you like to know more about anything he has said??

I have something I would challenge him on, but I will let you go first! :-)

RE: as one year ends and another begins

by sandy26 on Tue Feb 23, 2016 10:56 PM

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Stan,

I was not brought up in the church. I was baptised catholic when I was born because my birth weight was 4lbs. in those days they baptised you in case you died. I really do not have any knowledge on religion, or the bible.

My mom's brother is pretty religious - he is a born again christian. He became a christian because he was heavy in to drugs and GOD saved him so now he has the lord guiding him. I am happy for him. It helped him and he needed it. BUT, I don't like the preaching stuff. HE preaches to me all the time. I just want to run from him when I see him. That is awful.  I feel religion and politics can be touchy subjects. 

So I really can't respond to Clint's message.

I do pray every night and I do believe in GOD - I just don't go to a church. 

I know GOD helps many people when they are dying or helping someone die.

Like I said, I have seen to many hypocrites preach the LORD. So I am just stand offish on the religion stuff. 

I cannot judge others and their opinions on religion.

Sandy

RE: as one year ends and another begins

by StanToronto on Wed Feb 24, 2016 01:06 AM

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Sandy, don't be concerned about what others say.

You believe in God, so this is an issue between you and Him!!

Trust Him. He never hides Himself from those who seek Him out and desire to be His friend. He will tell you all He wants you to know, in His own way.

And after 70 years, how do I know that . . . .

RE: as one year ends and another begins

by StanToronto on Wed Feb 24, 2016 05:15 AM

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Sandy,

Hmmm . . . No objections so far . . .

Your relationship with God has little to do with complex intellectual concepts like doctrine and theology.

It is all about the heart.

Place your arms around Him and embrace Him, He will do the same for you; and when He places His loving arms around you, no matter what, He will always be with you, and care for you, and NEVER let you go!!

RE: as one year ends and another begins

by StanToronto on Wed Feb 24, 2016 01:50 PM

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Sandy, the essence of being born again and becoming a Christian is rather simple.

Under the Law, we have sinned, and penalty is due to pay for those sins. That was the purpose of Jesus dying, to take upon himself the punishment due to us.

So, we pray to God telling him we are sorry for our sins, and ask to be forgiven; and we place our trust in Jesus, and the power of his sacrifice to take away all of our sins and the punishment that was due to us.

That's about it.

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