Emotions of spouse after prostate cancer diagnosis

4 Posts | Page(s): 1 

Emotions of spouse after prostate cancer diagnosis

by jwt1253 on Sun Mar 06, 2016 03:49 AM

Quote | Reply
I am having great difficulty dealing with my husband's emotions with this diagnosis, all of which are understandable, I know the stages of grief, just didn't expect to be the object of his anger. Those of you with the disease, please advise. He is 64 years old, T1C, 1 core g-6, 2 cores G-7 out of 28. Choosing between RP or EBRT or brachytherapy. Leaning toward nerve sparing RP. I think he has a good prognosis but he's saying he's dying and thinking about making drastic changes, i.e. selling our house, moving to a retirement center. I'm not ready for that. Is this a normal reaction?

RE: Emotions of spouse after prostate cancer diagnosis

by pcpatient on Sun Mar 06, 2016 06:34 AM

Quote | Reply

another option to check is Proton Therapy

https://www.floridaproton.org/cancers-treated/prostate-cance

Loma Linda, CA or Jacksonville, FL and other can provide more details

some patients testimonials are on http://www.protonbob.com/

RE: Emotions of spouse after prostate cancer diagnosis

by jwt1253 on Sun Mar 06, 2016 12:12 PM

Quote | Reply
Thank you. Reading a book about it now.

RE: Emotions of spouse after prostate cancer diagnosis

by valhi on Sun Mar 06, 2016 02:53 PM

Quote | Reply

On Mar 06, 2016 3:49 AM jwt1253 wrote:

I am having great difficulty dealing with my husband's emotions with this diagnosis, all of which are understandable, I know the stages of grief, just didn't expect to be the object of his anger. Those of you with the disease, please advise. He is 64 years old, T1C, 1 core g-6, 2 cores G-7 out of 28. Choosing between RP or EBRT or brachytherapy. Leaning toward nerve sparing RP. I think he has a good prognosis but he's saying he's dying and thinking about making drastic changes, i.e. selling our house, moving to a retirement center. I'm not ready for that. Is this a normal reaction?

Hi jwt1253

I was diagnosed with cancer and I believe every emotion is normal. I did not get angry, but I did try to get control of everything. It could have easily turned to anger if everyone did not go along on my ride. I had a plan for everything and everyone (I had a whole written plan for the dogs). I wanted that control, because I could not control my health and felt I had no long term future plan to offer (get everyone where they need to be so I don't have to worry while I go. It also gave me something complicated to focus on.

Sometimes control comes out as anger? How long ago was he diagnosed?

When you start to get upset just assume he has you in mind and does not want to leave you more then you can handle.

When I was diagnosed I did not dare assume a good outcome (game in my own mind). Plan for the worst outcome and you will not be disappointed again.

If its not that, Sorry! Hes just angry and I hope for your sake he gets over it soon :-)

Good luck

4 Posts | Page(s): 1 
Subscribe to this message board discussion

Latest Messages

View More

We care about your feedback. Let us know how we can improve your CancerCompass experience.