Dealing with in home visitors

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Dealing with in home visitors

by mylil63 on Mon Mar 21, 2016 01:34 AM

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When my husband was diagnosed with cancer in early January the visits from family began. I have had non-stop family in my home (staying here overnight) since mid January. His brother is here now, has been for a couple weeks and will be for about 10 more days. Then his other brother flies in. They are wanting to help with getting him to appointments, etc. since I have an unpredictable work schedule. I understand this, but I want my home back for a bit. I am ready to have a breakdown because these visitors don't help me. I end up having to entertain and take care of them (cooking, cleaning, etc). How do I get people out of my house? I can't relax in my own home. I see no end in sight. Any suggestions?

RE: Dealing with in home visitors

by loriea on Mon Mar 21, 2016 02:58 PM

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You don't mention what your husband's prognosis is but other than that, I can only advise you to have a heart to heart talk with his family members about your feelings. Just explain to them that you appreciate their help and you know they mean well but your nerves are on edge not only with your husband's condition but having company all the time is a strain on you as well. You must speak up now before you have that breakdown and/or the situation gets to the point that you blow up at them! When they call to let you know they are coming, I would definitely let them know about nearby hotels that are available. I know it's hard but your well being as well as your husband's should be your main priority. Good luck. 

RE: Dealing with in home visitors

by Catalina2 on Thu Apr 21, 2016 05:00 AM

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On Mar 21, 2016 1:34 AM mylil63 wrote:

When my husband was diagnosed with cancer in early January the visits from family began. I have had non-stop family in my home (staying here overnight) since mid January. His brother is here now, has been for a couple weeks and will be for about 10 more days. Then his other brother flies in. They are wanting to help with getting him to appointments, etc. since I have an unpredictable work schedule. I understand this, but I want my home back for a bit. I am ready to have a breakdown because these visitors don't help me. I end up having to entertain and take care of them (cooking, cleaning, etc). How do I get people out of my house? I can't relax in my own home. I see no end in sight. Any suggestions?

Fish and relatives stink after 3 days. An old saying goes. You must ask them to go.
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