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  • Fredward has replied to a post on the message board

    Bettinuca, First, let me say I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. I can only speak from my point of view but perhaps it will offer you some helpful insight.  I am 59 and lost my husband June 7, 2013.  I loved my husband and if I can't have him, I don't want anyone.  But even if I felt otherwise, I have many other reasons for not wanting to find another.  Dating is so much different now th...

    February 05, 2017 view post
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      I haven't been on here for awhile but this post has really it home.  I lost my husband 3 years ago on June 7 and it feels like yesterday.  I still cry a lot.  The first year I was just trying to survive.  I also lost my Dad in an accident 6 months after losing my husband and my two favorite uncles in between.  Year two came around and I did things because I was "supposed" to.  I no longe...

      June 23, 2016 view post
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        Stephen, This will be my third Christmas without Jim.  December 26 will  mark the second anniversary of my father's tragic passing in an accident.  I lost my mother in law in August.  We had to put my mother in a personal care home in Spetember.  My youngest son will be with his in laws to be for Christmas, which is only fair beause they were with me last year.  My oldest son and his wi...

        December 09, 2015 view post
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          Ann, I am so sorry to hear of Mike's passing.  Keeping you and your boys in my prayers. Susan

          November 03, 2015 view post
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            Ann, I'm just so sorry for you and your family.  You have so much to deal with and you will find that you will need to just take one day at a time and sometimes just a minute at a time.  If you are involoved with a church, the pastor/priest may be a good place to start.  I was so mad at God and sometimes I still fall into that trap.  Losing Jim shook the very core of my existance.  It's ok t...

            October 30, 2015 view post
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              Ann, I am sorry you are going through this.  I lost my husband in June of 2013.  Jim was diagnosed with a very rare mucosal melanoma in April of 2012.  He did well for the first year then went down hill fast.  He was unable to speak for the last six weeks and communicated by writing.  Our sons were 20 and 26.  Jim got bad just as the youngest was finishing up a semester at college. &nbs...

              October 27, 2015 view post
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                Irene, This is one of the things I struggle with.  Our oldest son was married just 4 months after I lost Jim.  A year a a half later, our youngest graduated from college, and now he is engaged.  With each milestone the kids reach, it hits me (and the kids) hard that the kids don't have their father to share it with and that Jim missed out on so much.  It's especially hard because the day Jim was ...

                August 28, 2015 view post
                • Fredward has created a new message board discussion

                  I lost my husband to a rare type of melanoma in June of 2013 and my father in a tragic accident Dec. 26, 2013.  In between I lost my 2 favorite uncles, one son got married and the other went back to college.  Then my cousin died. I just can't seem to get it together.  I'm working 3 jobs (6 - 7 days a week, most days 2 jobs, sometimes all three) trying to make ends meet.  I do everything inside and...

                  August 07, 2015 view discussion
                  • Fredward has replied to a post on the message board

                    Stan, I am so sorry for your loss. It has been two years since I lost my husband.   I can honestly say that I am very happy for those who have lost their spouse and are able to find love and marry again.  I wish my neighbor would find someone as she really wants to be with someone again and she did have a very happy marriage.  A friend remarried after the loss of his wife and I happily attended his ...

                    July 14, 2015 view post
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                      Irene, Father's Day was rough but we got through it.  I lost my husband to cancer in June of 2013 and my father in an accident in December of 2013, so it's a double whammy.  I still have my father-in-law and although I can honestly say he has treated me and my kids ok, he is one of the poorest excuses of a father I have ever seen.  I will always respect that he is the father of my husband and will tre...

                      June 25, 2015 view post
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