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My son, 59 years old, died Sunday, May 26, 2019, a year after he was diagnosed with peritoneal carcinomatosis. The first oncologist said, annoyingly, "There is no cure!  I can't help you!!" Then pushed my older son, my son with cancer, and me out of his office. Another oncologist said, "Folfox might help," but agreed it could cause him to die sooner because it would kill good cells as well as "bad cells." After searching alternatives, he worked so hard to stay alive, declaring to me, "Mom, I want to live!" Some 13 months later, after becoming depressed, he told me to accept he was going to die and please accept that for him.

My advice: spend every minute you can with your dad.  Talk about anything. Fun times in the past. Trips you took.  What is going on in your life and the lives of those for whom he cares. Hold his hands. Give him sips of water. He is depressed. He knows he is dying. Keep his last days as stress free as possible. Stress and depression will make him want to give up. Tell him you love him. Again. Again. And again.  

From a sad and grieving mom. 

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About Maryshope

Caregiver, Researcher
Colon Cancer
Acupuncture, Alternative Treatments, Cancer Nutrition, Cancer Treatments, Clinical Trials and Research, Diagnostic Imaging, Diet, Emotional Support, Insurance, Massage Therapy, Naturopathic Medicine, Physical Therapy, Recipes, Spiritual Support, Supplements

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