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  • StanToronto has replied to a post on the message board

    That is wonderful news Joy!!

    October 09 at 11:58 AM view post
    • StanToronto has replied to a post on the message board

      eternalife >> "Like Steven... we can find love again.. just let your light shine." I am now in the 4th year. When you say, "we can find love 'again'", I have never 'lost' love! I have enjoyed wonderful God-given life filled with love, and that has not changed. The committment I made to my God-given bride over 50 years ago has never changed. There was no termination or exiry clause in our vows. I am convinced ...

      June 21 at 6:06 AM view post
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        It's a quantity vs quality of life consideration.One of the highlights of my day is a big fat juicy steak carbonized on the BBQ. And at 77 years of age, I intend to continue doing that until confined to a long term care facitity, and y'aii know what the menu is like there! <giggle>  

        June 20 at 4:36 PM view news story
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          eternalife, it is always so wonderful to hear from you again. While Stephen has chosen to travel a different path to ours, there certainly is certainly nothing inappropirate or immoral about his choice. I am just approaching my 4th year, and life is hell!! And that's the way I expect it to be until I expire.  I remember the day I asked "Will you marry me?" And the day I said "I do." And then there was the d...

          May 27 at 9:05 PM view post
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            Reflecting back upon our last year with my wife with pancreatic cancer, I wonder it was the right choice.She could "live" 10 months, and accurate prognosis; but I question the definition of "live". While she "survived" those ten months, she did not "live" those ten months, she merely survived that long. Wed - Go to the hospital for lab tests, in preparation for properly mixing the chemo.Thur - All day at the can...

            April 18 at 9:50 PM view news story
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              That advice may be valid for the general population, but may be poor advice for those who hang out on a cancer forum.In my own experience, as an old guy who has lost a spouse. the thought of eating made me gag, which resulted in losing 70 lbs and ending up in the hospital for a couple months to teat malnutriton. When I left the hospital, I was assigned a multivitamin, and B100 complex to start my day. From there on, ...

              April 18 at 9:22 PM view news story
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                Experience as a caregiver depends entirely upon whether or not you actually care the person for whom you are providing care. From my own experience, I tend to view my year as a caregiver, as the final chapter of a beautiful love story. Once I reached The End, that's when the ill health set in. :-( 

                April 18 at 9:03 PM view news story
                • StanToronto has replied to a post on the message board

                  Punky,  If you think that at 77 years of age, I am looking for some kind of conjugal relationship, that just means that you don't yet know what it is like to be that old. :-) That kind of relationship is not anywhere on my to-do list. You mention finding love once again, but I don't need to find love again. I am already blessed with more love than I can handle. I have a very close loving family: Two sons who ma...

                  March 31 at 3:54 PM view post
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                    Punky, When you refer to my "method of coping", I am not really coping, I am merely enduring. It's a lot like accounts I hear of cancer treatment. I know a doctor who was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer at the same time as my wife. My wife 'lived' for 10 months. The doctor who lasted 40 months, availed herself of state of the art treament, with multiple surgeries, radiation and chemo. But the doctor didn't 'live' 40...

                    March 27 at 9:34 PM view post
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                      Stephen, From what I have seen on bereavement forums, your way of dealing with loss of a spouse is rare. I suppose I am amongst the majority who have no desire to engage in a new relationship, or remarry. I am just coming up to my 4th year alone. Some say 'time heals', but is hasn't for me, and I continue to struggle adjusting to my new life. I think it is great that you have the resilience to make a new life for ...

                      March 26 at 2:04 PM view post
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                      About StanToronto

                      Caregiver
                      Pancreatic Cancer

                      Age 76: Caretaker for my wife of 50 years.

                      Dx pancreatic Cancer Aug 2014.

                      Caretaker no longer needed Jun 2015. :-(

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